It might seem like an annoying habit but is it really their fault?
If you have been talking for hours about something that really bothered you, it can be annoying to find out that your partner hadn’t been paying attention at all. That might cause you two to fight. But it turns out, there is a good reason why your significant other might not remember what you said.
Everyone has probably experienced this in their life: you talk to someone about something that happened to you. Just so you can get it off your chest or because it was just too funny not to share with the people closest to you. But then, a few hours later, that person doesn’t even remember what you told them. That can be a source of frustration for a lot of couples. But did you know that the issue might not actually be with them?
You probably assume the other person isn’t interested in what you have to say. You blame them for not listening and they blame you for being angry. But it turns out, they actually are interested in what you have to say. You’re both just overestimating your abilities as listener and story teller.
Because you have known each other for a while now, you assume that you don’t need to explain everything. Including all the details of your story. Because your partner will understand you, regardless of the way you tell the story. Or at least, that is what you think. That is why you’ll leave out necessary details that make the story more interesting and easier to understand. Resulting in your partner immediately forgetting what you told them a few hours ago.
But you’re not the only one to blame. Because your partner has known you for a while, they assume they won’t have to listen that well either. Because they think they know what you’re going to say. And so, they don’t listen the way they would have when talking to a stranger.
This might explain the fact that your partner forgets the things you say. And it might help you both to understand each other better!
Source: Marie Claire | Image: Unsplash, Kristina Litvjak